MENTORING
By Bobbi Barbera
I saw the movie “Barbie” more times than I care to admit. The line from the movie that resonated with me was, “moms stand in place so their daughters can see how far they have come.” My first thoughts were of my two moms: my mother and mother-in-law, Mary and Daralee. They showed me how to be a strong woman in many different ways. My mother was a “stay at home” mom and my mother-in-law has been my role model for my career and an example of how far and how much one can accomplish professionally.
Both of these women contributed to the person I am today, although the role models were much different. I started writing about my mother, Mary, thinking she was the one that stood in place so I can see how far I’ve come. I realized she didn’t stand in place; she kept the pace and was the one in my ear saying I can do anything I set my mind to. She also told me I could sell ice to Eskimos (I understand this is an outdated phrase that originated in the early 20th century).
Who knew those two phrases I remember my mom saying to me would give me the gumption to say yes when my mother-in-law, Daralee, tapped me on the shoulder to start a career in financial planning. I’m confident that my saying yes and having the privilege of working with Daralee, an amazing leader, coach, and friend, made all the difference in the lifestyle I provide my family and the lives of the clients I serve with passion and precision.
I also, don’t believe the creator of Barbie, Ruth Handler, stood still so her daughter could see how far she had come.
What I believe moms really do is tell their daughters they can accomplish anything. There are no limits. Dare to dream the biggest dream, and you can get there.
If your mother never told you, YOU can accomplish anything you set your mind to. I’m here to tell you, it is possible. May I add, you have a duty to accomplish what you want, for yourself, your family, and the daughters that are watching us to see how far they can go.
My thoughts are inspired by my mother, Mary Henry, who I lost at 26 and still love and think about all the time, and Daralee Barbera who I gained as my mother-in-law around the same time that I lost my mom. My hope is that I can make both moms proud and remind all daughters that they are capable of great things, because we are.
Bobbi Barbera, LPL Financial Advisor. Bobbi has been with Waddell & Reed since 1996. As a financial advisor she offer investments, access to insurance and comprehensive financial planning. Whether you have basic needs or a more complex financial picture, Bobbi can help.